Dating lost spark
After moving in with her boyfriend Eric one year ago, following their college graduation, Emily, who is 25 years-old and working as a film editor’s assistant, plopped herself down on my couch and complained of boredom.
She wondered if she was in the wrong relationship because she didn’t feel that spark of excitement anymore when she saw Eric after work.
With researchers estimating that 30-60 percent of married individuals in the United States will have an affair at some point in their relationship, it may be time to really examine what causes our affections to wane.
What prompts the shift from helpless love to deep disinterest?
What turns our heart-racing enthusiasm for another person to boredom and dissatisfaction?
She went on to say that while she loved him very much, she knew it was never going to work out in the long term because she never felt that elusive spark. This woman was talking about a man who she feels is her best friend. I know this is an extreme example, and most, if not all of us would be smart enough to say “yes” to this guy and start growing old together, but the reality is that a version of this happens to so many of us all the time..
I had to read it again, just to make sure I wasn't missing something. It was such a reminder of what settling really is and isn't.